Mar 12 2008
How To Develop Your Own Neg-Repellent
“Experience informs us that the first offence of weak minds is to recriminate” Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Negative people typically suffer from what I call the three “C’s” and are usually found to be: Criticising, condemning or complaining.
Here are some tips to help you overcome negativity and to recognise it in others.
Develop and build your own understanding of what is really negative. Do remember that constructive criticism is not negative.
Check your conversation with others, are you being negative? - Check your thoughts and thinking process - remember that if you are thinking negatively the only person you will harm is yourself. Remove those thoughts as you would a faulty slide from a projector, discard them, you have the capacity to do that and your mind will respond if you are strong enough and willing enough to discard a negative thought.
Build a bullet proof screen around you, so that negative comments or behaviour from other people cannot penetrate. You can do this by instantly recognising negative criticism or conversation.
From time to time, check the company you are keeping. If you have been mixing in the wrong environment, talk to people who are positive. Go out and mix with people you know have positive, constructive ideas. Mix with people who are doing better than you.
If another person’s negativity does get through to you, say to yourself “Why did he or she say that”? You must remember that no positive person becomes so unfeeling that they can’t see life from another person’s point of view. It could happen that someone very close to you says something that can be construed as negative; it may be because they are worried, they are concerned or they have fear. By asking yourself “Why did he or she say that?” You will more than likely be able to understand and by reassurance, conversation and looking at the worry from a different point of view, turn the negative into a positive process.
Have your own negative repellent whenever anyone says anything really negative to you just say “fantastic” - no truly negative person enjoys hearing that word; they really run for cover!
In Summary:
• Remember, the negative is always stronger than the positive.
• Never allow anyone to pollute your thinking
• As a professional you must take care of your attitude
“The most evil, dangerous and cancerous complaint that humanity inflicts upon itself is to be negative” Anon
Today’s News: I often talk about networking sites and whilst some of them can be irritating, providing a constant stream of requests from people you have never heard of wishing to link with you, others have some real benefits: As an example yesterday, we decided we needed to recruit some additional programming resource with PHP/MySQL experience, so I logged into LinkedIn and sent a question to seventy of my contacts, asking if anyone had advice. Within four hours, more than fifty of them came back to either say they couldn’t help or providing details of people they would personally recommend - fantastic :-)
Over on Salesopedia this week, the hot topic is interpersonal skills, and there are some excellent articles providing advice - you can check it out here
Tomorrow: On the JF Guest Author Spot my guest is my good friend, best selling author and internationally acclaimed sales psychologist Dr.Greg Stebbins.
